my girlie :)

in march and april, while asher was in the hospital, blithe and bram stayed with my parents. while there, they went to school next door, where my mom used to teach. they were there for approximately six weeks.


bram enjoyed himself greatly, but blithe! wow! she had a wonderful time! she made a lot of friends and made huge strides academically. she made huge strides in her reading, going from reading some simple books when she started there, to reading age-appropriate books, including easy chapter books, by the time she left. and her writing went from, um, pretty messy to clear and legible and neat! i was thrilled with her progress, and she could not have been more proud of herself. :)


before she came home, she got a special award from the school. she was given the Principal's Award for being "such a good kid in class" (as she puts it), and for being the most improved student in her class! it was such a big accomplishment for her. she insisted on nana (my mom) taking a picture of her with her award and sending it to me in toronto.


(yes, it's taken me a long time to post this. i kept forgetting to send the pic from my phone. my bad.)

blithe's other fave song. what can i say, the kid's got taste!! :D

blithe's fave song :)

Once upon a time, i asked blithe to get ready for bed...

... and she wrote this instead:

Once upon a time two boys loved to play and play and play all day long. a mother was so tired that she fell asleep all the time. and a girl well i'll just say she helped the mother and they all lived happily ever after. the end.

it's sweet, it's true (except i don't fall asleep all the time. i was actually getting asher into his jammies at the time... but yes, i was very tired!). but she loves to help... even writing bedtime stories to tell the boys. LOL

wow! it's been a while...

ok, ok, i know, it's been over a month since i last posted here. bad blog mommy, bad BAD blog mommy. lol but i'm going to try now to get you caught up on blithe's progress.

it's now been over a month that she's been on her meds, and it's going wonderfully! and as much as i dislike meds, especially for kids - especially for my healthy kids - i have to say, i'm so glad we went this route.

blithe can read now. before she was on meds, she really struggled with her reading. and speaking as one who reads and writes all the time, it was beyond upsetting to see how difficult it was for her to accomplish even the simplest reading assignments. but in the last month or so, her reading has progressed marvellously! in fact, as i type this, she is upstairs with her brothers and grandmother, reading a bedtime story to them! she even described this book - which she has never read before - as "a piece of cake"! i couldn't be more proud of her than i am right now. :)

another improvement has been her printing. suddenly, when she hands me her writing assignments from school, i can actually read them! the letters are clear and spaced properly, formed correctly, and rarely are they floating somewhere between the line and the top of the page. it is such a thrill to see how much improvement there is in her work now that she can focus. whoda thunk, eh?

she's actually enjoying school now. every morning, she is the first one dressed and ready to go, and when she gets off the bus at the end of the day, she always has something exciting to tell me. i really just can't believe the improvement in her; it's absolutely heartwarming.

we have also been continuing the work on non-medicinal ways to help her. as a rule, she only takes her meds during the week, so on weekends, we have the opportunity to practice other tools to help calm her mind. and they seem to be working. so far, we have tried:

• a soothing perfume (sandalwood)
• conscious breathing
• drinking water
• leaving the room for a few minutes when it's too chaotic for her
• going for a walk

it's now mid-november, so i know the walk option won't be available much longer around here, so we're really concentrating on the other tools. the perfume seems to help quite a bit. i gave her the choice of two scents (sandalwood and satsuma), asking her which one helped to calm her mind. not surprisingly, she chose sandalwood (it's my soothing scent, too). breathing is helping, although she needs to be reminded to do it. but in time, she'll learn to start that on her own. she just needs to remember it herself. i've explained to her the importance of water, that it will help to wash the stress hormones and chemicals out of her system, which will help her to calm herself in the long run. she's getting the hang of leaving the room, although she still likes to be right in the action, so it's not always the easiest for her. but when she tries it, she feels better.

i'm just so proud of her and her progress so far. my goal is to be med-free by march break, which gives her a few months to get into the practice of using the other tools. some of them will be more challenging at school, since she can't exactly walk out of her classroom, and her school is scent-free. but she can still drink water and breathe at school, so i'm hopeful that we can accomplish this goal.

and yes, i'll try to be more diligent in posting. it seems i'm rather easily distracted, myself, sometimes.

this has NEVER happened before, but i wouldn't mind if it happened more often from now on ;)

this is blithe, doing her homework. probably doesn't seem like a big deal, but two weeks ago, this wouldn't have happened.

homework time usually involved multiple melt-downs (and not just her), lots of tears, and nothing getting done.

but look at her now!!! she sat down at the table and got to work. no coaxing, no bribing, no time-outs, no raised voices, no whining, just my sweet girlie doing her homework. :)

this post will seem a little scattered, but it's 3:30am as i write... and hey, it's about ADHD, so OF COURSE it'll be scattered LOL

well, it's been a few days on meds now, and i've noticed something... they're wearing off awfully early. yesterday (wednesday) blithe was almost in tears by the time she got off the bus after school, and today, she was back to her moody self by 4:00. she flipped out over a snack (i gave her some choices, but she wanted something else, and that, apparently, is worthy of a fit. nice, eh? ugh.) so i'll be chatting with her paeds about the dose of the med.

but in the meantime, i'm teaching blithe some of my little tricks to focus. we're working on breathing. just breathing. when she feels overwhelmed, she just breathes for a minute or two. i've always found that conscious breathing helps to focus my attention on one thing, and it helps to calm me down when i'm upset/freaking. and so far, blithe has said it helps her, too. so i'm glad about that.

let's see... what else tonight?... ah, yes. it was "meet the teacher" tonight at school (though i really don't know where else you'd have meet the teacher LOL). anyway, i was chatting with her teacher, who knows she's on meds, and he made a point of telling me that blithe had a great day today. she paid attention, worked hard, participated in class really well. i was so happy to hear that!! she has never done that before, so this was wonderful!!! i'm really happy to know the meds are helping, and she's beginning to have some success in school. she was so encouraged tonight when we talked about it. she was really proud of herself, probably for the first time since starting school. apparently, mr t said today that she was "on fire" - she knew the answer to almost every question, and was raising her hand nicely and really had a great day. blithe was thrilled! (so was i.) she has also been able to tell me about what they're learning in school now. every day this week she has filled me in on animals who change colour to match their environments. can you believe it?! she's retaining information!!! this has never happened before!!!!! i couldn't be happier or more proud than i am today. :)

there is one other thing i'd like to write about, before i forget. here in ontario, there's a programme called ACSD (Assistance for Children with Severe Disabilities). currently, i get this for my son, who has some health issues of his own, though they're all physical. anyway, when blithe was diagnosed last week, her paediatrician (who was over for tea at the time... lol yes, we're friends. lol) told me to pop in to her office the next day for a prescription and an ACSD application. i'll admit, that upset me a bit. i hadn't really thought about ADHD as being a disability. i mean, she's functional, beyond smart, not unstable or anything. but when dr b filled out her form in the application the other day, she checked off three or four criteria for blithe. one of these was "is unable to recognize dangers in the home or community." that one hit me hard. because it's true. blithe knows about the dangers intellectually, but i don't think she regularly makes the connection between the information and the reality. that one is absolutely heartbreaking. on the other hand, i'm going to take that little check-mark, and use it. now that i've thought about it, and i know that this is an issue, i'm just going to have to make an effort to remind blithe about the dangers around her (without scaring her, ideally). there's so much to this condition that i hadn't considered. i'll admit, it's a little overwhelming at times. on the other hand, my son's health issues were overwhelming at first, too, and now i know WAY too much about his stuff. so i know i can do this. and she'll be ok. :)

well, i think that's about it for now. i'll let you go and try to stop your head from spinning now. sorry about the poor writing in this post. i try to write coherently, but this is the first chance i've had to post in a few days, and it's almost 4 am now, so this is what you get. LOL